Nonconsensual sexual contact is never okay. Also, just because you didn't say no, doesn't mean you gave consent. Most survivors can't say the word no when this is happening.

You can consent to certain parts of sexual contact without consenting to another. You can also withdraw consent at any time. Some survivors report they felt ok with certain sexual acts but then stopped participating, pushed the other person away, tried to get up or walk away, or other actions.

We have included some commonly used definitions below if you are interested in learning more, however, if you still have questions we encourage you to connect with an advocate or sign up for a DaneMAP account to explore other service/support options.

UW-Madison definitions:

Sexual Assault

Any sexual contact without consent, including sexual touching, groping, or rape. Remember, a person is unable to consent to sexual activity if they are incapacitated due to alcohol or drugs.

Sexual Harassment

Unwelcome sexual advances, unwelcome requests for sexual favors, or other unwelcome sexual conduct.

Dating & Domestic Violence

A single act or ongoing pattern of abusive behaviors that exert control and power over a significant other. This can include physical, sexual, emotional or economic abuse.

An unwanted sexual encounter is NEVER the fault of the victim/survivor.